We were quite surprised and a bit insulted. Hint: If you are too embarrassed to ask your guests, it is probably in poor taste. Please be CONSIDERATE to your guests. Consider them and their enjoyment in your budget. Yes, it's YOUR day, but, remember all of the time and money they are also spending just to see YOU. Your guests may feel 'taken'. You don't want that! You want everyone invited to feel almost as good as you do!